Joy is the gigantic secret of the generous. But it’s hidden in plain sight, and easy to reach. How? Simply, find those generous acts that you know bring you and other people joy, and then do them more. Is it cooking meals for friends? Is it picking out the perfect gift for an acquaintance who’d never see it coming? Find the joy that sustains your sacrificial kindness.
Do something that costs you nothing but brings someone else joy: a walk, a view, a book.
Think of a fun evening plan that will bring someone else joy as well as you. Plan it, and get inviting.
Give something that costs you, and isn’t particularly joyful, but brings joy to someone else. (“Think about this one”)